Parents: Take your kid’s side!

I’m reading a wonderful book right now:  “Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves” by Naomi Aldort.  I highly endorse this one!  It’s great for the many  wonderful stories in it which demonstrates how to use empathy with your children in...

Constructive Criticism

Several days ago I gave a talk to students at Stanford University on the subject of nonviolent communication and the importance of empathy.  At that meeting one of the students asked, “What about ‘constructive criticism, isn’t that important?”...

Swept Away by Thoughts

In nonviolent communication we make a distinction between thinking and feeling.  But often feeling is the result of how we are thinking.  When this is the case, we need to find ways to deal with thinking. Here is an example.  Recently I saw a young woman who was...

The Boring Cient

I was coaching a man who was telling me about his concerns.  I listened carefully, watching my feelings.  After a short period I noticed I was bored.  It was not that what he was saying was boring.  He was making significant progress in many of the things he had set...

The Most Powerful Request

I have found in my coaching classes that most people have difficulty making powerful requests.   They either make half-hearted requests or they avoid making them altogether.  Why is this?  Are they afraid of rejection?  Do they think they will look weak or...

When All Else Fails, Have a Good Time!

I work with a training company as a meeting facilitator.  They happened to double schedule me for the first day of a two-day meeting.  Unfortunately, I was on the agenda to open the second day and my job was to review the learning on day one (the day I had missed!) . ...