“I’m a Failure!”

“I’m a failure!”  A handsome young man was speaking to me.  “I can’t trust anybody in my family.  My brother cheated my parents out of their money, now they have to live with him.  I don’t trust any of them.  I had the perfect...

Parents: Take your kid’s side!

I’m reading a wonderful book right now:  “Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves” by Naomi Aldort.  I highly endorse this one!  It’s great for the many  wonderful stories in it which demonstrates how to use empathy with your children in...

Constructive Criticism

Several days ago I gave a talk to students at Stanford University on the subject of nonviolent communication and the importance of empathy.  At that meeting one of the students asked, “What about ‘constructive criticism, isn’t that important?”...

Swept Away by Thoughts

In nonviolent communication we make a distinction between thinking and feeling.  But often feeling is the result of how we are thinking.  When this is the case, we need to find ways to deal with thinking. Here is an example.  Recently I saw a young woman who was...

The Boring Cient

I was coaching a man who was telling me about his concerns.  I listened carefully, watching my feelings.  After a short period I noticed I was bored.  It was not that what he was saying was boring.  He was making significant progress in many of the things he had set...